Who's To Say?

Sometimes too much hope rests on the misunderstood sayings of olden times. We must speak positively and affirmatively, but also realistically. Every sound-good or do-good saying doesn't, and won't, apply to every situation. We may never know the true context(s) of the era or situation during which a statement was made. It's important that we ponder on the meaning of what we say before we say it to have a full understanding.

All's well that ends well. Stay in your lane. Keep your head down, work hard, stay focused and you will achieve your goals. If you don't get something then it wasn't meant for you. Besides, all good things come to an end.

Right?

Who is to say that you know what's best for you at a given moment? What exactly is ending well? Sometimes things just end. Aren't you allowed to switch lanes? Who is to say that your goal is the one intended for you to achieve? Stay focused, but lift your head, smell the flowers and notice the world around you; don't let it pass you by. If something didn't happen for you, that doesn't mean it wasn't meant for you. It just wasn't meant for that time. Not all good things come to an end. Love endures.

Who's to say that one perspective fits your life or situation? You are allowed to learn, to grow and to change. Who's to say that you can't? Only you.

It's beautiful to be you...simply beautiful. 

You Are

You are just who you should be at this moment in time. You are right where you need to be and doing just what you should be at this very moment. You are living every moment of your life...but how are you living?

Are you loving? Are you enjoying every breath? Are you maximizing your every moment? Are you teaching, learning and growing? Are you helping?

You are who you decide to be. You are who you reinvent yourself to be. You are who you believe you are. You are innovative. You are brilliant. You are beautiful. You are enough. You are more than enough.

It's beautiful to be you...simply beautiful.

Mindful

It's only fair that people have an opinion of you and what you do or say. Others' opinions of you are out of your control. Nevertheless, you must understand that what you do and say will alter the way people see you. Even the most altruistic person can be seen as mean or overbearing given the proper circumstances. The way someone sees you or what someone thinks of you does not change the person you are.

You cannot live to fit inside the box of someone else's mind. Living does not revolve around opinion. You decide what is right or wrong for your life.

It's beautiful to be you... simply beautiful.

Loving You

Loving you does not mean you can't love someone else. Loving you does not mean you are selfish. Loving you does not mean you can't be concerned for others' well being. Loving you doesn't mean you don't care. Loving you doesn't mean there is only you.

Loving you isn't ignoring myself for you. Loving you isn't allowing myself to be disrespected. Loving you isn't choosing to accept the pain you cause. Loving you isn't being okay with your ignorance or the aftermath of it. Loving you isn't accepting your apologies, only for you to do what you apologized for...yet again.

Loving you isn't settling. Loving you isn't being afraid. Loving you isn't weak. Loving you isn't getting angry when things don't work out. Loving you isn't giving up.

Loving you is an continuous action.
Loving you is noble and compassionate.
Loving you takes grace.
Loving you is understanding.
Loving you is knowing that you won't always agree with everyone. 
Loving you is moving forward in spite of the pain of the past
Loving you is knowing that you deserve the world and you're ready to receive it.
Loving you is a choice...one you must make every single day.

Love yourself and those you carry with you...daily.

It's beautiful to be you...simply beautiful.

Bye Gones

Let bygones be bygones. Time heals all wounds. That's what they say.

They say...forget about the past and let previous mistakes or pain fall to the wayside. Let old differences be reconciled. Well, I beg to differ.

Should you let the past stay in the past? Yes. But should you let those mistakes and past pains simply fall to the wayside? No.

Never focus on your past. Your focus should always be forward and upward...toward your growth, goals and future successes. However, I would be remiss if I didn't urge you to search and understand your past in order to move forward with confidence, having matured from past mistakes and pain. After you have done your due diligence and had some much needed reflection (as we all do at times), by all means, let bye-gones be bye-gones.

Say goodbye forever to the pain and mistakes that you have gone through in your life. Let them serve as a springboard to propel you into becoming a better you.

It's beautiful to be you...simply beautiful.

Intentions

The saying goes..."all is well that ends well". Is that true? Are things "well" because they end well? Do you take into account what happened at the beginning of a learning experience and in the middle of it, or do you only consider the comprehensive outcome?

You get out of any situation what you put in. Even if you don't own up to it, you always play a part in the outcome of any given situation you're a part of. You may have ignited, ignored, pushed along or even tried to stop certain things that led to a specific chain of events. What was your intention?

Do you simply float through your days with no set intention of affecting the lives around you? Do you pay attention to the role you play in life on a larger scale, aside from your own? Look at life for more than what you might gain from an action or inaction. Your intention is your goal, what you hope or aim to achieve. Your actions never affect just you.

It's beautiful to be you...simply beautiful.

Being You

You cannot live backwards. You cannot erase mistakes. Life doesn't come with an eraser for blunders along the way. You don't live in pencil. What is done, is done...inked in.

What you can do is live without regret. Learn from your mistakes. Embrace your blunders and learn from them instead of repeating them. Gain wisdom, not just experiences. Love yourself...mistakes and all.

Value yourself. Appreciate yourself. Know that you add value to those around you. But understand that simply because you love, value and appreciate yourself does not mean that everyone else you come in contact with will do the same. Continue to be yourself anyway...steadily growing in love, knowledge and understanding.

It's beautiful to be you...simply beautiful.