Saturday, July 7, 2018

Loving You

Loving you does not mean you can't love someone else. Loving you does not mean you are selfish. Loving you does not mean you can't be concerned for others' well being. Loving you doesn't mean you don't care. Loving you doesn't mean there is only you.

Loving you isn't ignoring myself for you. Loving you isn't allowing myself to be disrespected. Loving you isn't choosing to accept the pain you cause. Loving you isn't being okay with your ignorance or the aftermath of it. Loving you isn't accepting your apologies, only for you to do what you apologized for...yet again.

Loving you isn't settling. Loving you isn't being afraid. Loving you isn't weak. Loving you isn't getting angry when things don't work out. Loving you isn't giving up.

Loving you is an continuous action.
Loving you is noble and compassionate.
Loving you takes grace.
Loving you is understanding.
Loving you is knowing that you won't always agree with everyone. 
Loving you is moving forward in spite of the pain of the past
Loving you is knowing that you deserve the world and you're ready to receive it.
Loving you is a you must make every single day.

Love yourself and those you carry with you...daily.

It's beautiful to be you...simply beautiful.

Sunday, September 17, 2017

Bye Gones

Let bygones be bygones. Time heals all wounds. That's what they say.

They say...forget about the past and let previous mistakes or pain fall to the wayside. Let old differences be reconciled. Well, I beg to differ.

Should you let the past stay in the past? Yes. But should you let those mistakes and past pains simply fall to the wayside? No.

Never focus on your past. Your focus should always be forward and upward...toward your growth, goals and future successes. However, I would be remiss if I didn't urge you to search and understand your past in order to move forward with confidence, having matured from past mistakes and pain. After you have done your due diligence and had some much needed reflection (as we all do at times), by all means, let bye-gones be bye-gones.

Say goodbye forever to the pain and mistakes that you have gone through in your life. Let them serve as a springboard to propel you into becoming a better you.

It's beautiful to be you...simply beautiful.

Monday, January 16, 2017


The saying goes..."all is well that ends well". Is that true? Are things "well" because they end well? Do you take into account what happened at the beginning of a learning experience and in the middle of it, or do you only consider the comprehensive outcome?

You get out of any situation what you put in. Even if you don't own up to it, you always play a part in the outcome of any given situation you're a part of. You may have ignited, ignored, pushed along or even tried to stop certain things that led to a specific chain of events. What was your intention?

Do you simply float through your days with no set intention of affecting the lives around you? Do you pay attention to the role you play in life on a larger scale, aside from your own? Look at life for more than what you might gain from an action or inaction. Your intention is your goal, what you hope or aim to achieve. Your actions never affect just you.

It's beautiful to be you...simply beautiful.

Monday, December 5, 2016

Being You

You cannot live backwards. You cannot erase mistakes. Life doesn't come with an eraser for blunders along the way. You don't live in pencil. What is done, is done...inked in.

What you can do is live without regret. Learn from your mistakes. Embrace your blunders and learn from them instead of repeating them. Gain wisdom, not just experiences. Love yourself...mistakes and all.

Value yourself. Appreciate yourself. Know that you add value to those around you. But understand that simply because you love, value and appreciate yourself does not mean that everyone else you come in contact with will do the same. Continue to be yourself anyway...steadily growing in love, knowledge and understanding.

It's beautiful to be you...simply beautiful.

Friday, June 24, 2016

Love Note 11

Dear Love,

Thank you for being so warm and inviting, gentle and compassionate. Thank you for the abundant laughter and the smiles that make my cheeks hurt. Thank you for the memories that warm my heart and seem to make my capacity to love expand. Thank you for coming to me when I was ready and not a moment sooner. Thank you for not allowing me to forget that to receive love, I must first give love.

Thank You

Giving Up

You always hear people encouraging others to never give up. "Don't quit", they say. "Never lose faith", they tell you...or "keep pushing." People may say these things concerning a goal or believing in something you want. But what about you? What about not giving up on yourself?

All too often we apply mantras, sayings and trendy mottos to our lives to reach a goal. But how much do we really internalize? As lovely as it is to say that "good things come to those who wait", it is even greater to understand that you can apply that to yourself. You are a good thing and you will be even better with time and effort.

Don't just choose not to give up on your goals or your hopes and dreams. Never give up on YOU! Believe and know that you are more than enough. Understand that you have the perfect gifts and talents within to do or to be anything you want. Just because you failed once, twice or even 50 times doesn't mean you won't succeed. Failure is just a step in learning to succeed.

Never give up on yourself...ever. You're a gem!

It's beautiful to be you...simply beautiful.

Sunday, March 27, 2016


There is a difference between being accommodating and being thoughtful.

You may make sure my needs are met. You may see that my desires are fulfilled. You may do my bidding. You may even ask if all things are to my liking. That is being accommodating.

You may think of me when you're out & about and purchase a trinket. You may give me my favorite dessert just to see me smile. You may rub my feet after a long day because you know they're tired. You may complete a tedious task I've been working on for months. That is being thoughtful.

When a person cares for you he/she will be sure to ask if you are alright. One might seek to give you things that you need. However, when a person cares for you and loves you, he/she may ask what you need but will fill in the gaps with things you may never verbally express or ask for. Accommodation works on the surface for basic needs or desires. Thoughtfulness requires a deeper sense of knowing and understanding a person.

Not everyone is merely accommodating. Likewise, not everyone is thoughtful. Don't confuse the two. Being accommodating is akin to being cordial. Being thoughtful conveys a deeper message...on purpose. Live with purpose.

It's beautiful to be you...simply beautiful.